"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Wednesday, June 01, 2011

Complications

So, I've been a little MIA here for a while.  I missed about a week.  I missed a Sunday Snapshot.  I've also missed blogging.  But it has been crazy busy here with Amy's recovery, the end of the school year, and beginning summer plans.  In addition to these things though something else has occurred that has taken over our time and thoughts.  This post has been brewing in my head and I've debated over how and when to post but I think we are ready now.  

Amy and I have had to stop our adoption process.  We've had to release Margaux and her information back into the shared list.  We recently contacted our agency so we could begin again on the work that we had left to do.  This summer was to be the time when we finished up our paperwork and got everything in line for submission on Amy's birthday.  However, we found out that we would need updated medical paperwork.  Amy's recent surgery to treat her adhesions created a complication.  One complication begets another.  See, one of the many stringent rules in this process is the fact that neither parent can have had a surgery in the year prior to the adoption.  This rule, like the age factor we have already become aware of, is not something that can not be bent or broken.  

We really didn't have much of a choice in the matter, the decision was made for us.  One  year.  That is how long we would have to wait before moving forward.  That would just be until we could submit our paperwork.  It would then be months more before receiving approval and traveling.  The total time would be close to 2 years from now.  It wasn't fair for us to allow Margaux to wait that long.  We've had to come to the realization that it wasn't meant to be.  She wasn't meant to be our daughter.  We don't fully understand His plan, but we do trust it.  We know that it is best.

A year.  A lot can happen in a year.  Who knows what will happen in a year?  Who knows what He has in store for us in a year?  True, we are sad.  We are disappointed.  We are grieving.  But we are somewhat at peace as well.  It's an odd mixture of feelings really.  He definitely is at work in this process though, providing us with supportive family, friends, and each other.  We did have to tell the boys.  They were, understandably, upset.  They too had become attached and were looking forward to Margaux joining our family.  They too are sad and grieving.  But the 4 of us are doing well, together.  

What are the plans for us?  Where do we stand on adoption?  What will be do next?  Pursue next?  For the meantime we have decided on just being.  On abiding with Him and reveling in the blessings and happiness that we have.  Ironically the year that has now been assigned to us is not necessarily a punishment.  Sure we could look at it that way.  But it is also a chance to think.  To pray.  To plan.  To abide.  That's exactly what we intend to do.   

So, things here in Drosche Land have yet again changed.  But we will make it through this also.  We will come out of it better, stronger, closer, and wiser.  Because in the end we have each other.  We have a wonderful network of family and friends.  We have our faith.  We have an abundance of blessings.  We move forward.

All is well, adapting and changing, in Drosche Land.      

2 comments:

  1. Aww, I'm so sorry to hear this. I know it's a major blow for you guys, but you sound like you are handling it well.

    Keeping you guys in my thoughts.

    B

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  2. Thanks so much, we are doing well!

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